No matter how organized your are, change is going to happen. Managing change is something we all need to learn, because none of us are immune to change. One day everything is peachy keen and the next day it isn’t. It doesn’t matter the catalyst, when something different happens (bad or good) it changes the trajectory of your life. It could be the loss of a beloved pet, a divorce or a new job. When change happens, more change follows.
Many people, when faced with change, will try to ignore it or fight it. Change is inevitable and the sooner we learn how to ride the wave of change, and accept it in our lives, the easier our lives will be.
Change is inevitable. The unknown is scary and change is the unknown. The good news is, there are ways to manage change so it isn’t as stressful or anxiety producing. Below are some steps you can take when change inevitably happens in your life.
Self Care – When change happens it can be disruptive. The loss of a parent, a divorce, a new school – all of these events are new and scary and the first thing that usually goes is our ability to take care of ourselves. We put out the fire and forget that we still need to eat healthy, get plenty of sleep and need the support of others. Now more than ever, when change happens it’s important to practice self care. Put your oxygen mask on before helping those around you.
Doing Nothing is Something – Some of the best advice I have received was during a crisis many years ago. I felt that I had to act, to do something, say something, but I didn’t know what was the right course of action. I was overwhelmed trying to play out all of the different scenarios of how things could be, based on the new changes and my reactions to them. A dear friend, who understood my need to take action, suggested to me that doing nothing was doing something. You don’t need to spring into action when change happens. You can take the time necessary to plan your course and weigh all the options in front of you. Take deep breath, or more, and calmly decide what is the best way for you to deal with the change that has occurred.
This Too Shall Pass – Change is inevitable and just when you get used to the changes, they change again. Humans are remarkably resilient, we have an uncanny ability to adapt to new surroundings and experiences. Remind yourself that you will get through this. It might not be today or tomorrow, but it will happen.
See the Opportunities – For many change is so frightening that it can be paralyzing. For others it is an opportunity for growth and new direction. You’re attitude will influence how you manage change. Is it something to fear or something to look forward to? All change presents great opportunities, will you be able to recognize them when presented to you?
Seek the Advice of a Professional – A professional therapist, counselor or psychologist can help you sort things out. You don’t have to go it alone. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious or stuck a trained professional can help you through the storm.
If you’re going through a difficult change and need professional support in San Francisco please give me a call at (650) 400-3214.