THE PEOPLE I SEE
Most people already sense what isn’t working. The hard part is seeing the pattern from inside it.
You’re competent. People rely on your judgment. You’ve solved harder problems than this one. And still, something isn’t working, and thinking harder hasn’t fixed it.
Maybe you replay conversations long after they’re over. Maybe you keep saying yes when you mean no. Maybe you’re the person everyone relies on and you’re getting tired of being the one who handles everything. Maybe you and your partner keep having different versions of the same fight.
You may even understand exactly why you do it. Knowing is useful. But knowing isn’t always enough to change what happens when the reaction takes over.
My job is to help you see the pattern, understand what keeps it going, and help you do something different with it.
*You’re successful but privately overthinking everything
*You’re very good at reading other people and less clear about what you need.
*You keep the peace and then feel resentful.
*You know your childhood affected you, but you don’t want therapy to become an endless excavation of your childhood.
*You’re in a relationship that looks fine from the outside but feels lonely, tense, or repetitive.
*You’ve done therapy before and understand yourself better, but the same reactions are still happening.
WHAT I DO
Individual Therapy
For when you keep saying yes when you mean no, replay conversations long after they’re over, or notice the same patterns showing up with partners, family, friends, or at work, even though you understand what’s happening.
Couples Therapy
For when you keep having the same argument, one of you reaches while the other pulls away, resentment is building, trust has been damaged, or you just don’t feel as close as you used to.
EMDR
Sometimes you understand why something affects you and it still does. EMDR can help with experiences and reactions that you understand intellectually but still react to emotionally.
And it isn’t only for major trauma.
Therapy Intensives
Sometimes an hour isn’t enough.
Half-day, full-day, and two-day intensives give us uninterrupted time to stay with something important rather than stopping simply because the hour is up.
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HOW I WORK
You won’t leave a session wondering what I think.
I’m active and involved in therapy. I’ll ask the questions that matter, tell you what I notice, and help you look at things you may not have considered before.
That doesn’t mean I’m going to tell you how to live your life. We’ll figure out what’s keeping you stuck, where it comes from when that matters, and what you can actually do differently.
I’m direct, but direct doesn’t mean harsh. I’m on your side, including when I’m telling you something you may not especially want to hear.
Sometimes understanding is enough to start changing it. Sometimes it isn’t. When it’s useful, EMDR gives us another way to work with reactions that haven’t shifted just because you understand them.
After 30 years of doing this, I know when to push a little, when to slow down, and when something important is sitting right in front of us.
You don’t have to agree with everything I say. I want you to tell me when something doesn’t fit.
WHAT TO EXPECT
Therapy doesn’t have to sound like therapy.
You can tell me things you don’t tell anyone else. You can say the thing that sounds terrible out loud, admit that you miss someone you know wasn’t right for you, or tell me that everything looks fine from the outside and you’re still not happy.
You don’t need to arrange it into a presentable version first. I’d rather hear the ugly version than the tidy one.
None of it changes the fact that I’m on your side.
And there’s room to laugh in here too. Not all of it has to be heavy.
THE PRACTICAL PART
Where, when, and how to start.
OFFICE
215 N. San Mateo Dr., Suite 8, San Mateo
TELEHEALTH
Anywhere in California, including early evenings
AVAILABILITY
Please reach out for current openings.
IN PERSON OR TELEHEALTH
Tuesday, Thursday, Friday
Telehealth
Monday and Wednesday
SESSIONS
60 minutes.
FIRST STEP
A free 20-minute phone consultation