About

You don’t need another person telling you what you should do. You’ve heard the advice, and you’ve probably already given it to yourself.

What you may need is someone who can recognize the pattern underneath the problem, ask the question no one has asked, and help you understand why knowing what to do hasn’t been enough to change it.

That’s what thirty years of experience is for.

I’m active in the room. I’ll ask questions, tell you what I notice, and point out things you may not have considered. You won’t have to wonder whether I’m listening or what I’m thinking.

I’m interested in the past when it helps explain the present. But understanding why you do something isn’t enough if you keep doing it. At some point we have to work out what you can do differently.

My work draws from psychodynamic therapy, attachment and relationship theory, parts work, and EMDR. I use what fits the person and the problem rather than forcing every client into the same approach. In practice, that means we look at what’s happening now, where a pattern may have been learned when that matters, and what keeps pulling you back into it.

We’ll talk like two people in a room. I take the work seriously without every minute of it needing to feel serious.

I’ve worked with people through relationships beginning and ending, marriages in trouble, betrayals, family conflict, career changes, losses, big decisions, and times when a life that looks fine from the outside doesn’t feel fine at all.

I can usually hear the difference between talking about the problem and getting close to what’s underneath it. I know when to ask another question, when to challenge something, and when to leave you room to get there yourself.

And I’m still curious. I think that matters.