INDIVIDUAL THERAPY · SAN MATEO
You know what you’re doing. So why do you keep doing it?
Maybe you know you’re saying yes because you don’t want someone to be disappointed in you. You know the person you’re dating isn’t giving you enough, and you’re still waiting for the next text.
You can understand a pattern completely and still have a hard time changing it.
Sometimes it looks like this
You agree to something you don’t want to do and feel resentful afterward.
You spend an hour thinking about a five-minute conversation.
You know you need to set a boundary, but when the moment comes you soften it, explain too much, or don’t say it at all.
You make decisions confidently at work and can’t trust yourself at all when it comes to a relationship.
Or maybe nothing is obviously wrong. Your life works. Other people think you’re doing great. It just doesn’t feel that way from the inside.
Insight and change are two different jobs.
A lot of people who come to me already have insight. You may know exactly where your people-pleasing came from, or why rejection hits you so hard.
That matters. But if you understand the pattern and you’re still living it, there’s more work to do.
We’ll look at what’s happening now, what keeps pulling you back into it, and what may be underneath. Then we work out what changing it actually looks like in your life.
WE MIGHT WORK ON
You don’t need to wait until something is falling apart.
You can come because something hurts. You can also come because you’re tired of repeating something, because a decision is keeping you up at night, or because you want your life to feel different than it does.
You don’t need a diagnosis or a crisis to have something worth working on.