Nothing in this world is static. Relationships begin and end all of the time and always for good reason. We outgrow the person, we drift apart from the other person, we no longer are aligned with that person.
They say people come into your life when you need them and leave your life when the lesson has been learned.
I love that. It’s such a beautiful way to look at all of our relationships and it helps the mourning process when they inevitably end. If you believe that all of your relationships, no matter how deep or long they were, had purpose, you’ll be a happier and healthier human being.
It’s difficult to end a relationship, and many of us remain in bad ones because we don’t want to hurt the other person or because we’re afraid of the changes we’ll have to make. Life is too short to be in a relationship that isn’t working. If you’re noticing these signs it might be time to take a deeper look at the relationship and decide if it’s one you want to continue.
Signs It’s Time To End A Relationship
Avoidance – You used to spend all your free time with this other person. You looked forward to hanging out or doing nothing together all day long. Now, not so much. You realize there are things you want to do and maybe your partner doesn’t want to do them with you or you don’t want to do them together. When you start making plans without considering your partner it’s time to take a closer look at the relationship.
Drudgery – You may be avoiding making plans with your partner because it’s drudgery to spend time with them. Maybe you argue or maybe it’s just no fun anymore. Whatever the reason, if it feels like a chore to spend time with your partner it’s a good sign it’s time to move on.
Trust is Gone – If trust has been broken in the relationship it can be difficult to get it back. Of course it depends on what broke the trust, but cheating and lying are difficult to overcome and restore trust. It can happen, but both partners need to be commited to restoring trust and it helps to work with a professional therapist. If the trust is gone the relationship is probably doomed and it’s time to move on.
Contempt – You don’t just hate spending time with the person but you hate everything about them. They eat wrong, they breathe wrong, they can’t do anything right. When you’re at this stage – that of feeling nothing but contempt for the other person, it’s time to seek counseling for the relationship or it’s time to end it. It’s unfair to stay with a person who you feel so toxic towards. When you feel like your partner is worthless, it’s time to do the right thing and let them go. It’s not fair to them to feel such negative things toward them.